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Personally I don't read anything into it. I just think they are being polite.
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Wow! Grapes are a very good price there!
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that seems to be a rare thing these days, but really, nothing should be put into it, unless your standing there with a conversation going for a half an hour, then maybe, just maybe there might be something there. but again, on just a chance encounter, I'd say no. .
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In my experience, most men cannot read subtle signals from women, and also are not adept enough to send them correctly. Otherwise, there would be no need for the John Gray books about Mars and Venus. LOLOL
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Kermit must have felt that way after giving Miss Piggy his number. LOLOL (I miss Jim Henson.)
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10/8/2016 10:00 pm |
yea gods, if I woman doesn t talk to me.. I don t think there is any thing that will , could , should ever happen.. face piles of trials with smiles.. MOODY BLUES please feel free to visit my blog happy blogging
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I'm polite and nice and I pretty much cut the guys off-at-the-knees because I am usually in a relationship with someone I pursued, and I am up front about that. If someone is attracted to me and starts to show me signs I start talking about my relationship and then tell them I have friends I can fix them up with. Kk The observant make the best lovers, I may not do right, but I do write, I have bliss, joy, and happiness in my life, Kitkat Come check out my blog KItkat1415 check out this post by me Adventures In Body Grooming #39 April Topic Link: What Lies Beneath If April Showers Oh Bloody Hell What Kind Of Weather Turns Me On Bloggers Symposium 40
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I don't read anything in to it. I just say hello and keep moving. I use to be good at reading signals but times have changed. In my teens and 20's it was a lot easier to start a conversation with women but today with all the crazy's running around women are a lot more reluctant to strike up a conversation with a stranger. To be honest....men and women are wacked and most have a bus load of baggage. Just recently there was a new girl started working at a local grocery. I got the feeling that she was "sending out signals". I went through her check out and was the only one in line. I like going to do my grocery shopping at around 10 PM when no one else is there. Anyway, we start talking and she proceeds to tell me she is a single mom, has 3 kids and is losing her job because the company is moving to Mexico. She was just working at the grocery for extra money. I'm like ...whew, TMI !!! Most of the women I've dated I was always in a situation were I was around them on an ongoing bases and got a chance to get to know them first. In my teens and 20's and my clubbing days it wasn't unusual for me to have women come up and start talking to me first or you keep making eye contact and that kind of gives you an opening. In an everyday situation like at Wally world it's not that cut and dry. I think environment and situations play a big role in meeting members of the opposite sex. Hope this helps!
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it might to him but everyone is different so I green light to him maybe a yellow to someone else and yes a green light to another. So with that said what is better plan of action A. presume it a green light and strike up a conversation. Or B. do not say anything and miss out on what could have been a good thing. Your call
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Is Polite the Green Light? No, not necessarily. If someone breaks the ice with a polite question, casual observation or simple greeting--and doesn't seem creepy--then feel free to respond in kind. I think most sane people can discern between a polite reply and a hint that you might want to hear more. If you're not looking or your creep-o-meter is faulty, kinkyfem73 has the right idea: ....avoid eye contact at all costs!! I think you made the right call. Someone who doesn't know how to approach a woman like a grown ass man probably doesn't possess the social skills required to make good company.
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This is a big problem for guys because all girls so their interest differently. I had this really hot girl that I use to work with tell me over Facebook that she had the hugest crush on me when we worked together but she avoided me like the plague so I thought she hated me. Then there are the girls who are all over you but when you ask for their number they act like you slapped a baby. That's happened to me before too. So I understand why guys just plow ahead sometimes. It's just easier to let a girl know you're interested and give her the opportunity to respond instead of waiting for a signal that may or may not come.
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10/9/2016 1:57 am |
LOL. thanks for making me sound like some kind of he man , or sexy guy.. no , no woman has ever , in my 63 yrs of life , ever looked at me , for me to initiated a conversation that I would have felt comfortable enough for me to do. ROTFLMAO.. but thanks again for making an old man feel good.. I ain''t that guy.. never was never will be.. . face piles of trials with smiles.. MOODY BLUES please feel free to visit my blog happy blogging
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If the woman isn't handing me her phone number, within a reasonable length of time, ìt is what it is. People are strange when you're a stranger."
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The only way I've been successful at reading "signals" from women is to add large amounts of alcohol and see what happens. Other than that, I call BS on the reading signals from a stranger for the most part because you can't confidently read someone's body language if you don't know what they're normal behavior is like.
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Is courtesy, politeness or niceness an automatic indicator of interest? "automatic" Not necessarily. But it could be. If not, how do you determine whether a woman's interest in you? If there is some indication (hard to say exactly what it may be, just a gut thing in most cases) that a conversation could take place I will participate. From there see if there is enough to keep going. When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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**raising hand** Ooooo . . . oooo . . read mine!, read mine! and then in my soft low Capt'n Jack voice - "look into my eyes darlin." When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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Oh, it wasn't the fact that she was talking to me about her job and kids that I took as a signal. It was what she did on previous visits that made me think that. It seemed every time I was in her sight and I would look up she was looking at me and would make eye contact. The night she was telling me about her situation was the first time I went through her line. Before I checked out, every time I would come to the front of the store, you know, going up and down the isle's, she would walk toward her register like she wanted me to come through her check out. There were 2 cashiers on duty and they were both just kind of standing around. It may have been nothing and I wasn't reading anything in to it but, I just got that feeling. How would you take that? Just curious, from a woman's perspective.
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This is a very good question. I put it right up there with men who don't know a woman but feel as hough they have the right to say, "why don't you smile" (because I don't want to motherfucker). I have a strong suspicion that if you ask men if they take a woman being polite as being a signal , they'll say no. Some because they are smart enough to figure out it will make them look bad if they say they turn a woman's polite nod or word into an opportunity to come on to her However, I think most men don't interpret what they do as pestering a woman because we never see what we do as wrong, we always have a reasonable (to us at least) justification for our actions: she held eye contact for a little longer, she brushed up against me as she went through the open door, etc. That's a human behavior that reaches across cultures. I bet that if you surreptitiously followed most guys who say they don't do this, you'd see them do it and if you pointed it out to them, they would give you 100 reasons why you are wrong, not them. I also bet the tendency to do it is increased if a man is hanging out with male friends. Am I saying that every man does this? No, but I am saying that a lot of men do this and legitimately don't realize it.
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Cultural difference alert: this is my UK experience... It's context dependent. If a woman, who's a total stranger, says hello in a setting where members of the opposite sex go to meet, and is ready to engage in conversation then I'd take that as an expression of interest. I'd probably try to find some common ground, talk about things they're interested in and suggest having a coffee, exchanging numbers. In the situation you described, where a woman is looking at me but avoiding eye contact that tells me they may find me (or part of me) attractive but don't want to engage socially. That's cool. Read my blog here guy4frot
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So you are always a RED LIGHT, that a sad way to be. So what is next, maybe you should carry a sing that says unless I talk to you first don't bother. Oh wait that would mean you have presumed or assumed that, that person has some how given you a green light. So you best option it not to talk to anyone and hope they do not presume or assume that you are approachable in any fashion. that going to lead to a lonely life, but that seem to be were you are heading.
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Politeness is far and few nowadays that people get mixed signals easily to it. Hate to admit it but I've had alot of cases where if that's all it takes to cheer them up and get them interested most of the time they've gone through or in depression for some reason normally. That and still puzzled why some nowadays think of it as flirting when in alot of cases it's just common courtesy. As for signals whether a person is interested or not I've got better luck of understanding morse code. At least I can understand SOS in that. XD
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So you are always a RED LIGHT, that a sad way to be. So what is next, maybe you should carry a sing that says unless I talk to you first don't bother. Oh wait that would mean you have presumed or assumed that, that person has some how given you a green light. So you best option it not to talk to anyone and hope they do not presume or assume that you are approachable in any fashion. that going to lead to a lonely life, but that seem to be were you are heading. Look, we're all sorry that you've been hurt and humiliated in the past but this is no way for a grown man to act. This is embarrassing.
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YW
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men are not great at reading signals. so if he looked and you smiled politely, he's going ot keep staring to see if you do something with more of a tell in it. like a big old, hey sailor, c'mere and let me suck your dick sign in neon so, being polite is often enough to get you stuck. and get a burner. give that number out until you're really sure. I say this, but I don't do this. I keep meaning to do this..... however, i'm not as sexy as you, so it's not as often that the issue presents that's my excuse......okay? You cannot conceive the many without the one.
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pretty simple in my world there is Less than 1% chance she will ever be interested, so for me... hello is only hello
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I likely didn't answer your question as eloquently as others, but I stand by what I said.... for ME.... hello is hello, nothing more. I engage in politeness for that is how I was raised, I do not believe that it is an invitation for advances. now I also realize that I am a minority, and that many guys see it as an invitation to get fresh. I do not understand that mind set, so I'm unable to comment. saying she will never be interested is putting an unfair judgement on another person without knowing them..... more accurately I would have to say that I never expect them to be interested
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Heck if I know, though I will say that occasionally the thought crosses my mind that perhaps that politeness was more than just politeness. ....but then it tends to get killed pretty quickly as the logical side of my brain kicks in and kills that line of thinking through pointing out I have no basis for knowing what someone else's baseline level of politeness actually is ..... So with that in mind I can honestly say I haven't a clue when a woman is or isn't interested in me unless she actually tells me.... --- yeah, I fully realize that can just as easily go the other way and be turned into "how does a woman know I'm interested in her if I don't say so?" Though I can say that, personally, I'm not a fan of the "grabbing method" espoused by one of the current presidential candidates --- even though I've actually seen that method work before .. (one of the many reason why I say, "Humans? bah humbug" )
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Ah yes, there is body language and you are correct that I don't really do the club scene....though I have just enough to know what you mean as well as know that it can be the most ambiguous and easily denied (or otherwise lied about for whatever reason). So that combined with all the potential legal outcomes of not getting a direct verbal/written form of communication (or in some states of this country a signed and notarized contract ) before proceeding just creates a whole lot of disincentive to start guessing at the intent --- no matter how much "fun" it means missing. .....or at least that's my way of thinking (for better or worse).
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Personally I think it's all from some sort of new-fangled course that we were both fortunate(?) enough to be out of school before it was added to the curriculum ....you know sort of like some of the new, and utterly absurd ways they are apparently now trying to teach math -- not sure I want to know how bad that's gotten, given by the time my younger brothers made it to advanced math classes the terminology and method of instruction had been so badly changed that despite my degree in "rocket science" (aka aerospace engineering) helping them with their high school math was basically impossible.
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10/24/2016 8:42 am |
No, it just someone showing kindness!
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Be Polite, Be friendly. It is nice when everyone is. It doesn't mean you want to take them to bed this minute but you might actually get to know them enough to decide if you want to be friends. Besides you can always tell them to F off latter if you need to. There you go That's all and none of it tragic.
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"Oh, I have the same rule as Kinky...avoid eye contact at all costs...I mentioned that in the post. My thing is...I shouldn't have to...or rather, I wonder why I have to. I agree, some people don't have the social skills to strike up polite conversation and let that be it, .... but creeps generally don't approach like you'd think creeps would.!" What do you mean? Please explain a little more. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- $20 on an Amazon order would bring some clarity to the discussion: Body Language Secrets by R. Don Steele But reading it is only the beginning. Watch TV on mute and you begin to notice the unconscious gestures. Gestures that say "go away", gestures which say "talk to me", gestures which say "I can't believe I just said that". The "avoid eye contact" ...yeah...."You are on ignore" Green and red table grapes were on sale last week locally for $0.69 per lb. I practice the being polite and friendly with everyone all the time. I make eye contact. How she(he) looks back or not tells me if I should approach.. The male is expected to show initial aggression and then back off....it's basic human sociology. Once you master the "being friendly", when that 9.5 shows up...and they show when your not looking...you are practiced and calm enough to fake it Yet, I don't want the embarrassment of being rejected publicly, so I wait for her signals and give signals back...a smile works. You can say almost anything neutral. If she is interested she will take it from there. As a man you are likely to be back on "buhbuhbuh" and she has you completely sized up in less than a minute. You already checked out her tits and ass so don't do it again during the interaction. there's no smilely for lust. I find it's helpful to be in the moment enough to hear the emotion in her voice. The other day, I showed a woman the better quality lower priced tomatoes. I saw her checking me out from across he produce section. Polite and friendly doesn't mean she wants to hook up. Could be she's curious, flattered you checked her out, having a great day, feeling frisky....The woman has to decide if you are safe enough. Takes a few minutes of conversation and watching for signals. Then offer or not to exchange numbers. I do it with my smart phone. In this instance no phone numbers were exchanged.
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I'd just take a return 'hello' that she is a nice polite person. If she tried to engage in conversation I wouldn't read too much into it either because she might want to talk for many reasons (help, information..) ... I'd definitely see where any conversation goes and look for the body language for signs of interest some blokes will think a glance of more than half a second means you want to jump them though
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Some way, people meet in some way before the Internet . It could start by a look and smile but there is no guarantee. For me, I need to meet a few times. Some people are just friendly. Cum to my blog and respond. Have a great kissing fun time.
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What I want to know is...do most guys think a woman is interested in them simply because she's polite or nice to them? Is courtesy, politeness or niceness an automatic indicator of interest? If not, how do you determine whether a woman's interest in you? I don't think that someone being polite is an indication of interest. I tend to make eye contact with people around me and often nod or say hi and consider that to be "normal". I don't try to pursue a conversation even if I find them attractive when I'm out shopping etc. because I'm the type of person that is there to shop not pickup women. That's not to say that I wouldn't converse with someone but I'm not likely to pursue the conversation. There are always exceptions though. Like conversations with the checkout counter person or sitting in a waiting room or other place where I'm not moving through as fast. Most by far are not anything I saw as showing interest in me but there were some such conversations that were definitely more stimulating. I tend to determine interest based on body language and eye/facial expressions more then the actual words however there are definitely exceptions when the conversation is shall we say risque or suggestive though that can be just flirtatious behavior with no intentions intended. I have to admit to reading people pretty well most of the time when not distracted by other things anyways. I have been in situations where it was very clear the woman was interested but as luck would have it I was either married or otherwise involved and had to pretend not to see the signs. Vive La Difference
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