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Blogs > gymrat1974 > ManwranglerJen

One Less Friend on AFF.  

gymrat1974 49F  
1057 posts
4/30/2016 3:53 pm
One Less Friend on AFF.

I've been Instant messaging back and forth with this guy over the last week or so. So, we finally get into a bit of a conversation about likes and dislikes, in general and sexually. I tell him that I'm not into anal. And he responds with, "Well, I'm not gay anyway." I will not be speaking with him again. I mean, I'm not the great defender of all things anal sex. It's not my cup of tea anyway. But it was just the way he said it. He was preachy and judgmental, and I could just see him trying to get me to go to his church with him before long because clearly my spiritual being needed some salvation. Lots of people are into anal sex. Men and women alike have a penchant for it. It doesn't make one gay. It doesn't make one dirty. It doesn't make one deviant. We all have preferences and likes and dislikes. And may I remind you, buddy, that you are on an adult dating site. So, what gives you the right to judge anyone else for his sexual proclivities?

And why shout you're not gay like that anyway? Did I question your sexuality? Nope. I'm a woman. And you're a guy on an adult dating site. It's highly conceivable that anal sex could be on your bucket list if not already in your repertoire. And it wouldn't make you gay if you and I played like that.

I think his comment is an element of the greater problem in the world. Many of us are quick to judge what we do not understand. We are quick to hate and ridicule and call out. Buddy, if you were gay, you and I wouldn't likely be having these conversations in the first place. So, I wasn't even thinking for a second that you were.

redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
4/30/2016 4:01 pm

 No one has a right to judge anyone - but they do.
It is interesting that you became friends with him in the last week or so. Had you met or conversed by phone (voice)?
When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


gymrat1974 49F  
557 posts
4/30/2016 4:27 pm

 No. We added each other on here, and were chatting. Sure, people do it. I mean, I realize I was judging his future attitudes about things based on that comment. But in the end, I don't care what he thinks just as long as I don't have to talk to him anymore.


TicklePlease 56F  
13851 posts
4/30/2016 6:52 pm

 jeez.... so this guy equates having anal with a woman with being gay? What a moron!


JCertification 38M
15 posts
5/1/2016 3:17 am

 Smh... what a lame


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