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Crushes are the universal human experience. They unite us, in suffering and emotion.
But while they are universal, they are not eternal. They change with us, over time.
Sure, there are some ways crushes stay the same, but there are lots of things that have changed. Because we’re sort of grown up now.
And we’ve got our sht together
*No, we don’t. Please send help.
Here’s how having a crush when in your twenties is TOTALLY different to having a crush as a kid.
As a kid: Passing a note with ‘do you like me? Yes/no’.
In your twenties: Questioning and over-analysing literally every interaction for ANY indication of what they’re thinking.
As a kid: Getting your friend to ask your crush out for you. Smooth.
In your twenties: Figuring stuff out on your own, like a functional adult. Or asking your mates to read the textchanges. They’re always there for you in times of need.
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As a kid: Crushing on the one guy in your class who isn’t picking his nose.
In your twenties: Crushing on the one guy at your place of work who isn’t 40/a massive idiot.
As a kid: Creepy behaviour includes repeatedly covering your notebook with your first name with his surname. Praying that no one will ever find it.
In your twenties: Instagram stalking has just reached 37 weeks back. You’re in the hole.
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As a kid: The greatest fantasy: that they’ll ask you to the Year 6 disco
In your twenties: Um. Sex stuff. Declarations of undying love. Actually getting asked out on a date.
As a kid: Hearing that they like someone else, and wanting to move into a hole in your back garden, to live out your days weeping and doing some light colouring.
In your twenties: Having a good cry, plotting revenge, but eventually shrugging it off and moving onto Tinder. Because you know there are PLENTY of other people out there.
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As a kid: Spending the entire school day distracted by their beauty.
In your twenties: Sames. There should be paid leave for having a crush. Or daily built-in crush breaks.
As a kid: You’re not entirely sure what you want to happen. The hormones haven’t kicked in yet, and you kind of like the idea of hugging them? It’s a confusing time.
In your twenties: Oh, you know what you want.
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As a kid: Getting super dramatic and thinking your love rivals that of Romeo and Juliet. It is eternal.
In your twenties: Occasionally thinking that you may DIE ALONE if this doesn’t work out, but otherwise preferring to keep it semi-chill. It’s all good.
As a kid: It’s impossible to talk to them. Blushing. Sudden muteness. The opposite sex is terrifying.
In your twenties: You’re a grown up now. You can talk to whoever you want.
You wish. Yep. Still struggling. You can now hold a conversation, but will inevitably say something completely humiliating/weird that you will proceed to obsess over for the next three months.
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As a kid: Thinking of super cool ways to subtly get their attention, like adding pink streaks to you hair or buying a fancy new pencil case.
In your twenties: Thinking of super cool ways to subtly get their attention, like getting hammered, trying to flirt with someone in their general vicinity, and massively embarrassing yourself.
As a kid: It’s your WORST FEAR that anyone will know about your super embarrassing love
In your twenties: Emotionally dead. Don’t know how to process. Will deny, deny, deny until you can be assured there’s no risk of rejection.
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As a kid: Expressing your undying love through endless teasing
In your twenties: Try to give backhanded compliments. Try desperately not to reveal feelings. End up being a dick and having him/her think you’re a cruel person who enjoys insulting people.
As a kid: IT’S LOVE YOU WANT TO GET MARRIED FOREVER.
In your twenties: God, they’re fit. And nice. And funny. Not sure if I’m ready for a relationship, really, and everything’s confused, but still.
As a kid: Honestly believing that they’re being horrible to you because they like you
In your twenties: Honestly believing that ‘they’ll change’ or ‘they’re just scared of commitment’. Maybe they’re being terrible human beings because they really DO like you too much?
As a kid: Flipping between being totally blind to any signals, and getting excited about anything along the lines of eye contact.
In your twenties: Nope, still no clue what anything means. Misreading everything.
As a kid: Not really knowing what happens after ‘asking each other out’, other than the pride of telling all your friends you’re dating.
In your twenties: Having literally no idea what’s happening, at any time. They agreed to ‘hang out’ once, so…
As a kid: When they finally express that they like you back, and everything is right in the world.
In your twenties: Hahahaha. Nope. Months of ‘WHAT IS GOING ON?’ Joy.
Ain’t love grand?
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9 comments
Crushes certainly are real. However in my experience, the hype you build in your mind, is always more than the actual fulfillment. Most times disappointing because we create such vivid imagination that nothing could come close in reality
Yes! Crushes are absolutely real, and it doesn't matter what age you are!
Crushes, { when you're high on them as opposed to when feeling hopeless} can raise your oxytocin, which is an awesome feeling! If you've stopped having crushes, then you might want to ask yourself why!
If you are talking about that first soul crushing love of your life that Dear Johned you while you were abroad(no not transgendered) and it took more than fifteen years to get over and even now you think of her...........thats a love affair not a crush. You are never the same after
Having a crush as a kid was excruciating because of silly fears. As an older person, having a crush is wonderful, because I know what I want and not be afraid to do what it takes to get it.
Is a crush the same as lusting for?
When you are a kid you are un-a-wear that your parents are still taking care of you. When you get older then you know a lot more. So things change.
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